precious friends, let me tell you a secret:
you don’t have to answer the phone or your front door if you don’t want to.
lots of people will try to make you feel like you’re being rude or unsocial. lots of people will act like you are obligated to answer a phone or a door…
I never ever answer my door to unexpected knocking! Even if it’s someone I may know/like. I can’t handle having people just sprung on me like that, it freaks me out.
And everyone who knows me knows my extreme phone phobia. I HATE ‘chatting’, and only return calls to a select few people (and even that causes anxiety).
So hell yeah to not being obligated to answer doors/phones!
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Periods are really not that bad. At worst, they’re an inconvenience. You’re a little uncomfortable, your stomach might hurt every now and then, you could feel a bit down or cranky, but that’s it. I’m sick to death of hearing people complain about the unbearable pain and agony they suffer through every month. If your period and the symptoms that come with it are truly so bad that you are literally unable to move or are throwing up, GO TO THE DOCTOR. Your period is not compulsory, you can go on the pill or other medications to control it or block it altogether. And quit campaigning that women should get the days of their period off school or work - women have been getting on with their lives, period or no period, literally since the beginning of man.
Also, stop complaining about ruined clothes - BLOOD RINSES OUT IN COLD WATER.
you tell that to the people who have PCOS
"IT DOESN’T HAPPEN TO ME, SO CLEARLY THESE OTHER WOMEN ARE LYING ABOUT THEIR HORRIBLE AGONY!”
This is hilarious.
And yeah, why don’t you come say that to someone with PCOS? We’d have some lovely words.
Five bucks says this was written by a dude. Because, holy crap, I can’t believe another chick would be that insensitive about something a friend of hers most likely goes through.
My period a few months ago was literally so horrible that I had to crawl on the floor to get around the house and I was sweating because of how much pain I was in, even WITH STRONG PAINKILLERS. Wow.
“Your period is not compulsory, you can go on the pill or other medications to control it or block it altogether”
EXCEPT SO MANY POLITICIANS ARE TRYING TO KEEP US FROM GETTING THE MEDICINE THAT HELPS US BECAUSE THEY THINK IT PROMOTES PROMISCUITY AND BAD MORALS.
Why the FUCK do you think that women fight so hard for birth control pills? And for it to be covered by health insurance? Not only is it our fucking choice on if we want to have sex or not, but without birth control, I am in AGONY for 3-4 days out of 7 and cannot go past an hour without needing to go to the bathroom to change things.
I’m lucky enough that birth control controls my period. I don’t have any conditions like PCOS that make my period worse, I’m just on the end spectrum of “your period is normal, but its gunna suck” For others, they need birth control so that it doesn’t feel like someone’s ripping their uterus out and gnawing on it and instead feels more like someone just stabbing them repeatedly so that they can THEN go on heavy painkillers to try and deal with the pain. Also, side note: most side effects of heavy painkillers make you seriously groggy and they don’t want you to drive.
Another side note, my roommate has epilepsy. Now i don’t know jack squat about epilepsy, but she’s told me that sometimes her cramps are so bad that it can trigger a seizure. She’s woken up a couple of times from the pain, only to have a seizure and throw up. If you knew this was a possibility, would you go outside where this could potentially happen in front of a lot of people/on stairs/WHILE DRIVING or would you take a day off and do your work at home where you can better control it? Periods don’t just cause cramps and whatever, they can trigger other conditions to act up as well WHICH CAN BE SERIOUSLY DANGEROUS.
Pretend women have completely free access to birth control and its covered by health insurance. My roommate can’t use traditional birth control because it completely negates her seizure meds, so there’s drug interactions that women have to deal with too. What if you’re allergic to the medicine? What if it causes even WORSE side effects than the symptoms you had before?
I’m not even going to bother explaining how “feeling a little cranky” begins to cover it. Periods mean hormone surges which means various mood swings as your body balances everything out to make sure that your uterus is functioning properly. Hormone surges affect moods. Some girls get more of a surge than others. Some girls are just more sensitive to these hormonal changes than others.
Most of the time us “feeling a little cranky” is us flabbergasted at the absolute ignorance that people like you have and the rage at the “oh you’re mad, you must be on your period” like our anger is only justified if we’re on our period and isn’t valid (but thats a whole other issue)
As for blood rinses out in cold water? How about when you leak onto your jeans in the first hour of school? Are you suggesting that I go to the bathroom and rinse out my jeans on cold water, and then go to class the rest of the day with a WET CROTCH? Because I’m not gunna have enough time to sit with my pants under the hand dryer until they dry.
Blood doesn’t even always rinse out in cold water, more just rinses out in cold water. It depends on the fabric, and you have to rinse it RIGHT AWAY. Most of the time girls wake up with their periods, after the blood has been there for HOURS. So there’s underwear, pants and potentially sheets stained because you didn’t even know your period even started.
Don’t even get me started on the fact that in order to keep the blood clean and off clothes is that we have to buy expensive pads or tampons, which are either basically diapers that you have to sit in and feel like you pissed yourself all day and worry about leaking, or a wad of cotton that you shove up in your vagina and worry about leaking.
And yes, women have been “getting on with life” for as long as we’ve had periods, because we’re BADASSES. We are TOUGH and we are STRONG. But women in the past have also wanted to take breaks due to periods. Don’t try and fool yourself into thinking that in the past women were just like “Oh it appears i’ve gotten my period” because a spot of red appeared on their undergarments AND THATS IT. No. They went through the same thing but most of the time had to be like “well FUCK” and tough out the day, and then cry from the pain in private. They would want a break then just as much as we do now.
Before making sweeping statements like this, why don’t you crack open a human repro book and actually look at the female side of it, and all of the problems and complications of periods that are DOCUMENTED.
And if you are a female instead of a male, OP, count yourself blessed that you think periods are easy to deal with. You could have had it so much worse.
Reblogging again because YO^^^
"Periods are really not that bad. At worst, they’re an inconvenience.,"
Why read anything more? You are not listening to women. Go to the doctor? Oh good idea, genius. Because they won’t minimize it and say things like “Periods are really not that bad. At worst, they’re an inconvenience.”
You aren’t allowed to speak on this any more, until you listen to the people who have periods, who by the way have been told since the year dot that they were over exaggerating.
"You can just go on the pill!!!!"
which is really expensive without insurance, and many MANY politicians are ACTIVELY FIGHTING so insurance WILL NOT cover it.
Also: it can trigger migraines in people who get migraines, like me.
TRUE STORY TIME: once I got my period and was all “wow, this isn’t really painful! Am I having a normal period with only mild cramps for the first time in my life?” and then I remembered that I was taking prescription ibuprofin and vicodin and that’s why I wasn’t in spasming pain. To reiterate: 800 mg of iboprofin and vicodin, enough to take the edge off an abscessed tooth that had half my face swollen grotesquely, also only took the edge off my period cramps. “not that bad/an inconvenience” my ass.
Dear OP. I have PMDD. Google it. Then get fucked, you jerk.
I spent most of my adult life (until my mid 30’s or so) suffering from dysmenorrhea and accompanying menorrhagia. Basically my cramps/period were violent, heavy, and uncontrollable. I’d take handfuls of ibuprofen, and double up on the biggest pads I could find, and still would have to change at least hourly. I have loads of horror stories I could go into, ugh you don’t even know.
I have ovarian hyperthecosis, which is apparently like SUPER PCOS. I’ve never been able to have kids. Even though I’m sad about it, it was actually somewhat of a relief when my condition progressed to the point where my periods disappeared altogether. It was AWFUL.
I try really hard to ignore the fact that I really have no life and just sit in my house all day and night and fret about what I should be doing without having any idea wtf that is
And some days it’s harder than others
And sometimes I start to go into a spiral of despair because I feel like I have no options and there are so many things wrong with me mentally and physically
And I’m just afraid, and sad
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